Attachment Wounds Therapy in Guelph

How Attachment Wounds Can Show Up

• Fear of abandonment; worry you’re “too much” or “not enough”

• People-pleasing or fawning; difficulty saying what you need

• Pulling away, shutting down, or feeling “numb” when closeness increases

• Repeating protest–withdraw cycles in conflict

• Strong reactions to perceived rejection, silence, or mixed signals

These responses make sense in the context of your history. They were ways your nervous system tried to keep you safe.

How Therapy Helps

• Name your pattern (anxious, avoidant, mixed) with compassion—not labels that box you in

• Steady your nervous system so closeness feels less threatening and space feels less alarming

• Strengthen self-worth and a grounded inner voice

• Practice boundaries & bids for connection that are clear and kind

• Repair and re-pattern in present-day relationships (including with yourself)

My work is psychodynamic and attachment-based, integrating IFS-informed approaches for parts of self. With couples, I draw on EFT principles when relevant. No rigid protocols or promises—just thoughtful, steady care.

What Sessions Look Like

• 50 minutes, in person in Guelph or secure video across Ontario

• Collaborative goals we revisit as you grow

• Pacing led by your nervous system—we go gently and check in often

• Short-term focus or longer-term depth work—your choice

  Common Focus Areas

  • Anxiety about closeness; fear of being “too dependent” or “too distant”

  • Protest–withdraw cycles and conflict triggers

  • Boundaries, needs, and repair after misattunements

  • Moving toward “earned secure” patterns over time

  • Navigating attachment in dating, long-term partnerships, friendships, and family

  Gentle Skills We Might Use

  • Window of tolerance check-ins and grounding

  • “I feel / I need” scripts for bids and boundaries

  • Slowing conflict (pause–label–repair)

  • Parts mapping to understand protectors and tender parts

  • Reflective journaling to reinforce self-respect and choice

  About Me

  I’m Eleni Kapetanios, Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying) in Ontario. My approach is warm, steady, and transparent. We’ll set clear goals together, check in on progress, and adjust as your needs evolve. Individuals and couples welcome.

Ready to Get Started?

If closeness feels hard or you’re tired of repeating old patterns, we can move gently toward safer connection—one step at a time.